When traumatic things happen our bodies react, it’s biological. We’ve all heard the term fight or flight……but that isn’t always what happens. There is one more response that isn’t known as well. Freeze. Now I could get into all the nitty gritty of the science behind that, but I will leave the link by Dr. David Lisak to do that. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=py0mVt2Z7nc)
When the body reacts to trauma it goes into a primal mode and hormones and the adrenal system are activated. There is no way to predict how one will respond or whether it will be the same for each circumstance. A particular cocktail of hormones create the “freeze response”. Scientists compare the response to that of animals that protect themselves by playing dead. Maybe the response is determined by how grievous the situation. So with that logic that must mean that freezing only happens in violent or stranger rape situations. Wrong. According to research the brain reacts the same way. The body doesn’t make the distinction, but society does. There is something innately wired that views rape as extremely distressing and may trigger the response.
Unfortunately those who may experience tonic immobility have no idea what is happening, which may lead to blaming themselves. It often leads to the “would have” “could have” or “should have”. I should have left. Why didn’t I get up? I wasn’t afraid for my life so why did I just lie there? I could have fought them. All these thoughts are a result of thinking that there may be a control over these responses, but often there is not.
The response reminds me of that bad dream that most of us have; of something awful happening to us but we are unable to move. The dream might just be an indicator that our body has a third response to danger.
If you are a survivor of sexual assault, it is not your fault! It excites me to know that there is more and more science that show how most responses aren’t crazy….but 100% normal and a biological response.
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